December 31, 2008

10 Tips To Win Back Your Ex

Took this from my boy Dizco has some great pointers for those trying to reunite with their ex.

10 Tips To Win Back Your Ex
By The Fly Guy

You couldn’t stop tossing and turning last night. Your thoughts on this night, just like the many nights before, were filled with memories of the one that got away. Well maybe it’s time you began to fight for the one that still sets your soul on fire. By following these 10 Tips to Win Back Your Ex, you’ll be back to buying customized his and her t-shirts and humming “Always and Forever” in no time.

1. Email is your friend.
Perhaps the initial key to working your way back into their good graces is to keep in touch in a non-threatening way. Sending an email is the ticket because it is less personal than a phone call or a text message, but still allows you the means to linger in their consciousness. Keep it simple though. A casual “Hey”, or “How are you?” will suffice.

2. Remember birthdays and other important dates.
Write it down, take a picture or do whatever it takes to ensure you don’t forget to call on their birthday, or any other special day in their life. In the simplest of ways, this shows that you still care, which in effect thaws a bit more of the icebox around the heart of your lost love.

3. Stay in touch with family and friends.
Until your ex comes to their senses, you may want to keep the communication lines open with their friends and family. Make sure that your exchanges with them are casual, and non relationship based. You can however, pepper in a few comments that allude to your desire to reunite…but that’s only if the opportunity presents itself. (Note: Mothers prove to be a most effective ally when you choose to initiate “Operation Family-Gate”)

4. Call from time to time.
While I would never advise pressing for an immediate reconciliation, disappearing altogether is a definite no-no. So pick up the phone and call from time to time, just to check up on them. If getting back together is still a sensitive subject, then steer away from those types of discussions. Just make sure that by the end of the conversation, you’ve demonstrated that you still care and that they remain in your thoughts.

5. Admit your mistakes.
If the break up was in fact your fault, take the adult route and admit your mistakes. Even if you weren’t totally at fault, by admitting that there were things you could have done better you will show your willingness to take a more mature approach in the relationship, should there be a second time around.

6. Show your growth.
Once you’ve admitted your mistakes, the next and most natural step in your progression is to show how you’ve addressed those areas in your life. Maybe you were a compulsive shoplifter, or even a horrible speller. Whatever it was that drained the life out of your relationship, it’s imperative that you prove it is no longer an issue. Until then, the chances of reconciliation are slim to none.

7. Don’t overdo it.
There’s no need to take out a full page ad in the Sunday paper or to write a 10-page letter soaked in their favorite fragrance to prove your sincerity. Just state your case for reconciling and stick to your guns. If you do too much the extra theatrics can prove to be a big turn off.

8. Don’t play games.
Make sure your signals are coming through loud and clear. Don’t act gung ho about getting back together one day, only to change your approach and act standoffish the next. You owe it to them and yourself to remain consistent in your approach. Maintaining that level of consistency adds credibility and integrity to your “Take Me Back” campaign.

9. Improve yourself.
You can’t waste your life away obsessing over whether things will work out in your favor. Instead, use the free time to raise your personal stock. Maybe you’ve been trying to get your finances in order, or looking to finally achieve that “summer body” you’ve always wanted. By focusing on becoming a better YOU, you will become more desirable to everyone you meet, including your ex.

10. Be patient.
Perhaps the most common error made when trying to win back an ex, is a failure to exercise patience. There’s no guarantee that as soon as you utter the words, “I want you back,” they’ll come running into your arms in slow motion from across a field of daisies. It may take a day or it may take an extended period of time. In the end, the length of time you’re willing to wait for your true love reflects how badly you want them back.

-- Mr.Dizco

December 30, 2008

Danielle Livingston Franks (Former Rosati-Kain classmate)

Danielle was a kick ass person who loved life and was one those unique people that always had a smile on her face and made sure u had one right next her. I never thought she would be an officer but apparently she found her calling. It's just a shame that her life was cut so short:( RIP

Funeral for city officer to be held Wednesday
By Leah Thorsen
Tuesday, Dec. 30 2008
A funeral Mass for a St. Louis police officer who died six months after
suffering injuries in an on-duty crash will be celebrated at 10 a.m. Wednesday
at the Cathedral Basilica of St. Louis at 4431 Lindell Boulevard, St. Louis
police said.

Officer Danielle Livingston, 29, died Dec. 24. She suffered severe neck and
spinal cord injuries when she crashed into a utility pole while responding to a
burglar alarm on June 10. She had to be cut from the wreckage, and doctors had
been unsure whether she would be able to regain mobility, but she was beginning
to walk within months of the crash.

Livingston had been at home after months of rehabilitation at a hospital and
the St. Louis Rehabilitation Institute. Police said she had asthma, and it is
possible she suffered a severe asthma attack and fell unconscious at her home
on Dec. 14. She died 10 days later.

Police were treating Livingston's death as on-duty death pending the results of
an autopsy.

On Wednesday, no parking will be allowed on Lindell Boulevard between Sarah
Street and Taylor Avenue from 7 a.m to 1 p.m., and Lindell will be closed to
traffic during the funeral service. Newstead Avenue between Maryland Plaza and
West Pine Boulevard also will be closed to traffic during the funeral service,
as will Boyle Avenue between McPherson Avenue and West Pine, police said.

A procession following the service will begin at the church and go west on
Lindell to Union, north on Union to Martin Luther King, west on Martin Luther
King, which becomes St. Charles Rock Road, and west on St. Charles Rock Road to
Valhalla Cemetery at 7600 St. Charles Rock Road, where Livingston will be
buried, police said.

A visitation for Livingston will be held from 3 to 8 p.m. today at Granberry
Mortuary Home, 8806 Jennings Station Road in Jennings. Traffic in the 8800
block of Jennings Station Road will be reduced to one lane during the

Livingston is survived by her two sons, Hayden, 8, and Brenden, 3, her fiancé,
St. Louis police Officer Ervin Lockhart, and her mother, Anne Franks.

In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to a trust fund for her
sons. Donations can be made at any Pulaski Bank.

A time to change

As 2008 comes to a close i wonder back on this year and myself as well. I was tired working 2 jobs. Notice I said 2 jobs not a career. So this past Sunday I was told by management at job #2 (Best Buy) that unfortunately my availability would no longer work for them and I needed to open it up some more. Well I had been thinking about making some serious changes for 2009 and working at Best Buy had been on the chopping block for some time.

There were different issues I was having in regards to my decisions.

1. I was tired working 2 jobs and not getting any sense of a vacation. It was working job #1 Monday thru Friday followed by job #2 on the Weekends. This Xmas break is the first vacation I've really had since August. Do you realize how long that is? hell not even Thanxgiving break was a break for me because I had to work Black Friday and that Saturday and Sunday. I put in close to 30 hours in those 3 days and had be back at work that Monday at my main job. It really kicked my ass this year.

2. My health. I've been workin at job #2 for close to 9 years. My weight had seriously ballooned over the years to the point that I really needed to get it under control. When I first started at Best Buy I was wearing XL shirts now that I'm leaving I wear XXXL shirts. My legs would be in pain by the time I would leave work and it would be a trial just to get out of my car and into the house. I would sometimes have to soak in the tub just relax my muscles. So this October I was finally like enough is enough. So that was when I joined The Boxing Gym in CWE (Central West End). I had been with 24 Hour Fitness yet I wasn't happy there because it was just a big ass gym and I was constantly reminded that I was there to try to lose weight. I wasn't having any fun. So I had been lookin at different boxing gyms in the area because I needed something that would help me relieve stress, be fun, and get my competitive spirit going again.

Also in November I had a severe cold that damaged my vocal chords and I went to a throat doctor and he said I needed to get on medication and seriously cut back on talking, singing, pretty much anything to do with my voice. So I took into consideration that I work 7 days a week and there wouldn't be a way to give my voice a break so something was eventually going have to give.

3. Social Life. I don't have one anymore. I used to be able to go out with my best friends and we would relax with dinner and drinks. I'm so tired I go home after work unless I go the gym on Tuesdays and Thursdays and I go to sleep and most time don't wake up until Midnight. that's how exhausted I am. So now that I will be done with Best buy on Jan. 10th I will finally have my weekends back and hope to kick it with my friends like I used to. Not to mention it would be nice to get back into the dating game. I'm so long overdue. lol

4. My education. I have been wanting to really finish up college for quite sometime. I want a career not a job. A former co-worker of mine came in about 3 weeks ago and he told me he had finally quite Best Buy after being with the company for over 10 years. He said he had finished college and was starting a new job more geared to his degree, NOT RETAIL, and with better hours and pay. He just got married and was expecting a baby real soon. He asked me when I was going to get back and finally finish up. He said finish up your degree so when you go to Best Buy in the future you won't need to worry about a store discount. Our conversation really made me think about what I want for myself. I do want something better for myself.

So when I signed my separation papers this past Sunday I was sad because I would be leaving an extended family that I known so well for close to 9 years. Yet I knew it was my time. I needed to move on with my life and finally do something with it. I want my own.

So with the coming of a new year I hope to be more focused, determined, and successful.

December 14, 2008

respecting someone's space

This past Friday there was an incident that happened at work that I can say was easily the number one thing that has EVER pissed me off while working at my main job. The reason I'm saying that is that even with it being Sunday, I still have been thinking about it. If there is one thing i have always believed in is respecting someone's place where they work. Unfortunately I have co-workers who have not been enlightened to that same rule.

On Friday I was at work with a mountain of crap to do as usual. When one of my co-workers comes through and begins to clean out the area beneath my countertops where we kept old gradebooks from years before. He states the principal told him he could clean them out but keep only up the last 5 years. So he goes through that and I'm going through my work. After he gets done with that, he proceeds to clean the top of my file cabinets. I wasn't particular concerned about that but then my feathers get riled up because he tells me that a file holder I had on one of my cabinets had to be moved somewhere else. I looked at him and told him it needed to stay there. I could tell he wanted to say something else but wisely held his tongue. He then put a different file organizer on my desk on top of some paper I was dealing with. That slowly started to make my temp rise.

So I move the 2nd file organizer back on top the file cabinents and he cleans it up. Then he asks me about the table that I have off to the left hand side of my desk. He asks me if I could deal with a smaller table and I tell him no and that I prefer that one. He then starts to move things off my brown cabinet that is flush against the left hand side of my wall. He moves a box that I have designated for SSD mail on to my file cabinets and I told him I didn't want it there.

He says he is trying to see if rearranging the table and cabinet would be better. By this time I'm getting real pissed and i told him that I did not want my furniture moves. He ignores me and I repeat myself to him. Then the principal comes through the door and he asks the principal his opinion as though mine didn't count. The principal agreed with him and that sent me through the roof. I told the principal that it didn't matter what their opinion was it was my office and I didn't want anything to be moved. Then my co-worker says, "yea I agree with him, it does look like shit". Right then and there I could had knocked his ass out.

He then continues to move the furniture and I was like fuck this shit and left the office. I was fuming so I went to 2 of my co-workers and told them what happened. One of them was like, now you understand what all of us have been trying to tell you. He acts as though he is on a power trip. I was always trying to defend him to everyone else saying that they just misunderstood him, but now with that incident I see him in a totally different light.

After speaking with them I went down to the cafeteria and vented out to one of the cooks. After about leaving the office for 20 minutes I go back to my office and find my furniture had been changed around. The brown cabinet had been taken out of the office and moved into the principal's office and my table had been moved to flush against the wall where the cabinet had been. My principal was coming through my swing door and I looked at him and told him, "we need to have a talk right now".

I lit into his ass and told him I didn't appreciate what had happened. What pissed me off really was then the co-worker who did the changes has the nerve to come into principal's office while I'm speaking and says, "Oh Windom you can't stay that mad at me." Then he tries to give me a hug. I turned my face away and then he proceeds to measure off space for bulletin boards in the principal's office. I just look at him with a sneer and the principal to me personally doesn't seem to take what I'm saying seriously. He then tells me about a student who is suppose to get 10 days OSS. Im just lookin at them both like what a pair.

I go back to my office and all I can think about is how pissed I am with what has happened. I am steady on the phone and dealing with paperwork and the co-worker finally leaves his office and tries to talk to me, I ignore him and he leaves the office. He then comes in later and asks If I want my photo ID taken and I said no, he then asks if I want it Monday and I say yes. You know what? I can have someone else take my photo because I wouldn't be in a smiling mode with him.

So then around 1:45pm I finally take my lunch and I can't even enjoy it because of all this shit happening. I get back to work and another co-worker that I'm cool with tells me that he is at the front table. So as I'm talkin with her I get a phone call and I'm going up the steps towards my office, the co-worker who pissed me off, he trying to get my attention while he is sitting on the main table in the hallway. I just waived him off because I didn't want to speak with him. I go in the office and make copies of payroll.

My co-worker that gave me the heads up that he was at the table was also in the office at the time and I informed her of what happened. She just shook her head and then we both left out and we go down an opposite corridor to the teacher's lounge. As we are both walking down my principal calls my name and asks where I am going. I told him home and to drop off payroll. He then makes some jokes and I can honestly say it was the first smile I had so far. Yet then I hear the co-worker that pissed me off started to call my name and I just rolled my eyes. The co-worker I was walkin down the hallway with opened the teacher's lounge and I used the facilites. He apparently came through and my coworker told him that I didn't want to speak to him.

What really got me riled up though was when another one of my co-workers asked the one that I'm pissed off with what happened while I was at lunch. Apparently his response was, " It wasn't a big deal and that he was working under the mandate of the principal." BULLSHIT NEWS FLASH, I don't give a fuck what anyone told ya. You ask me first if it's okay. This is MY OFFICE and I'm the one who has to work in it. I don't tell the principal how to run his office and I don't tell the co-worker in question how to run his area.

So afterwards we left and I take the payroll over to the administration office. Informed them of what happened then I went home. This whole weekend even when I was at my 2nd job workin a 12 hour shift I still was thinking about this situation.

So work is coming tomorrow and boy I would say this. From now on if you come in MY OFFICE it had better be to SIGN IN or SIGN OUT, make copies, get your mail or talk to the principal. There is nothing that needs to be said between us. DONT even come past my swinging door unless you are going directly in to speak with principal. I don't need any damn bulletin board, what I have on my wall by my desk will stay up there until I say otherwise and if I see anymore changes in MY OFFICE there will be hell to pay.

Lesson learned from this story: Don't fuck with me.

December 6, 2008


It's so cold outside....Having to bundle up to make sure the air doesn't chill as it does. /curious to know if the only hand I hold is my own. I wonder why does my head hurt so much from time to time. I sometimes smile and other times I'm sad. I want to finish college but don't know what direction I'm wanting to go. I want to leave saint louis, and go somewhere else to start fresh. yet they say home is where the heart is. Yet my heart is so fragile, it could be mistaken for crystal that one must be careful with and not let shatter. Sometimes....I just wish for once....I had all the answers and none of the consequences....
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